An Open Letter To My Husband

My husband, my reflection.

My husband, my reflection.

Dear Husband,

Thought it would be fitting for me to write a letter to you after celebrating your birth for the past 10 years of my life.  Can you believe it's been 10 years! Life comes at us fast, and before I allow you to go any further with all that life has given to you. I need you to know a few things...

In a world where people question your potential, it's necessary I acknowledge you. I am not into preaching the gospel, but my faith is very strong. Your creation into the universe is a direct reflection of his mercy. Here we are...flawed, incomplete, and damaged in some ways. And God has allowed us to redeem one another.  Balancing each other out, tackling challenges, and focusing on creating solutions. Love can get hard, we don't always make it easy, but the devotion we share has seen us through.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate then when I fall asleep your eyes close.
— Pablo Neruda

Not fulfilling your NFL dream got you stuck? 2nd year of law school driving you crazy? What about raising 2 girls that you somehow manage to continue to place first? No? It has to be trying to please an unappeasable wife, who has 10 things to say after you, and cries after everything (It's the Cancer trait) LOL. You wear your cape so well. Always putting things back in perspective, seeing all sides that somehow I miss. Seeking and fulfilling your purpose so graciously.

A warrior, but poised like a King. You never allow me to feel the pressure of the world. The things I doubt, you conquer for me. The ways in which I suffer, you are always there to heal. I often times remind you, I don't know where I would be without you. Although I know I would place my crown so firmly on my head, it just wouldn't be the same. Life with you is just easy. Easy like our Sunday mornings before our girls come in are room. That same morning where you're holding me close, I'm picking out your curls, and we just dream together. Planning out our future, telling ourselves, as long as we have one another we can accomplish it all. Devising our plan to get our piece of the pie. Inspiring one another by feeding off our independent accomplishments.

That is the same morning that I sit back and then see you engage with our children. And I think to myself. In a world that can be so cold, at this exact moment I have everything I need. My heart is so full. Full of admiration and contentment. Knowing that my girls know love because their daddy shows love to their mommy consistently. You are a direct manifestation of how they will allow the world to see them. You are courageously dedicated and true.

Well today I celebrate you. For everything you are and everything you will become. For everything you will fail to be, and loving you through it all. My vow today and forever is to continue to celebrate you even when I don't want to. For even your scars I will cherish. Because when I didn't believe I deserved to be loved, God gave me you.

Thank you Maurice Alexander Wells. I loved you 10 years ago, and you have allowed me to fall in love with you each year after. For your birthdate is a blessing to us both.

My family and my marriage will be the masterpiece I leave behind.
— Jada Pinkett-Smith