2016

An Ode to Motherhood

There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.
— Jill Churchill

As I sit back and reflect what motherhood means to me, I not only pay homage to my own mother, but all the women who are part of my village. For me, motherhood about re-birth. A chance to start over and reappear in a new form of life. I think about how strong my grandmother was, moving from Birmingham Al, with 9 children, including my mother, with hopes and dreams folded in her back pocket. She taught my own mother about concepts of motherhood. Then my birth occurred, forcing my mother to then pass on what she learned to me. Now here I am, transforming those teachings to my very own children. Just hoping I get it somewhat right, and make them proud. 

My mother shares stories of how much of a caretaker I was as a young child. She states I had/have a very nurturing soul. I was always taking care of my younger cousins, and other children who came around. She often explains that I always wanted to be a mommy, carrying a baby doll and purse where ever I went. Now here I am with 2 little girls whose whole life is dependent on my well-being, and I can't help but feel a little loaded. Motherhood is so complex, right? And during this Hallmark holiday I sit back and ask myself, what does motherhood mean to me... 

My motherhood is my redemption. I have a long way to go before figuring this motherhood thing out, with the understanding that I may never figure it out. But what is essential is that I give my girls a foundation to build upon to be wiser. Wiser than my mother, my grandmother, and mothers who came before her. I want them to use my failures as a chance to rise again, a new chance to get it right. My thoughts are that motherhood is a direct link to the future, giving us power to transform the world by building our children to be better than our imperfections. It's imperative I model for my daughters my fears and hopes to use as a source for growth and learning. And in return they are equipped to be great women and mothers themselves.

So here's to all the mothers who put parenting first. You know the moms who took small rations so you had seconds. The mothers who love whole-hardheartedly but understand that you still need limits. The mothers who maintain their own identities outside of being a mother. The mom who worries for you. The mom who runs off of no time, but makes time for you. The mom who will ask for kisses no matter how old you get. The mothers who live to see the smile on their child's face. The mothers who never stop trying to get it right. And most importantly the mothers who have the ability to understand that their life will continue long after they are present, so you are purposely walking in your purpose.

Overall, thank you to all the moms who are contributing to making the world a better place by raising strong children, with dreams and hopes in your back pocket.

Happy Mother's Day!

 

Mother/Daughter 2016 Vision Board- DIY

Sundays are for "future" telling.

#SundayFunday

This morning we woke up extra early to take Kennedy to support her gymnastics team at competition. I did not allow for her to participate in the first competition because 1,  she just joined a new team and 2, I didn't feel as if she was ready. During practices I noticed her not giving her all, I decided to allow for her to experience competition culture to gain some motivation to excel. As she sat at the competition, I could see her eyes water with excitement. What was most joyous is I heard her cheering for her teammates loud and proud. It was at that moment I felt like she was experiencing true "inspiration".

So we got in the car and begin discussing what it means to be "inspired". I decided to expand on the conversation and planned a mother/daughter vision board afternoon. I discussed with her what it means to plan for your future, and how to visualize her goals. I wanted for her to know that the things you truly believe in, happen, and therefore we accomplish them. It's hard to teach children to believe in something they can't see. Kids need instant gratification. But in that present moment when she was pulling out things that "inspired her", I gleamed with so much happiness. She chose some amazing things to be only 8 years old, and also chose items that made me proud she was only 8. Such as a picture of nail polish, just innocent and true. I would advise any parent that has a child who would be able to begin visualizing their dreams, to do this craft together. It's so important for parents to guide and support conversations of the future. We are the leaders of our nation. Train up a child...you know the rest.